A little known fact about me is I minored in sociology at the University of Texas. I have always been very interested in people and the way they behave. I find it fascinating. From a sociological perspective, this move has been absolutely fascinating. I have enjoyed the people watching here more than I ever have before. I have loved watching the muslim women, with their fabulous accessories, the muslim men with their fancy shoes and sunglasses, and both sexes smoking their shisha (pronounced sheesha) out of fancy pipes as they dine at a restaurant.
The thing that has surprised me is the expat culture. EVERYONE has a maid to clean their house, and everyone with kids has a live in nanny. It took me a long time to wrap my brain around having someone else come clean my house. In one way it's like a dream come true to kind of have an excuse to have someone else come clean my house, but in another way I find it very troubling. I have always kind of been "anti-maid" for myself... Maybe it's a pride thing, I don't know, but I have never wanted to have any sort of formal "help" with my house. In fact, one of my new years resolutions this year was to "bring housewife back": my idea was to take pride in keeping my own house and cooking all my own meals. Being that 1950s housewife that everyone so disdains these days. Keeping a house and cooking for a family is not in any way degrading, but something one can take pride in and it is a blessing to have a home and family to look after. I have actually gotten really angry reading news articles or blog posts that imply that when a woman is "reduced to domesticity" it is the lowest possible place for her. Not this girl. I am not perfect at it, but I try my best. And I think it's a very honorable place to be, and I keep thinking that despite what I hear from outside my home. And I'm awesome.
So coming here has rocked my world a little. Some people I have talked to see having "help" as spreading the wealth. We are here making money off the natural resources of this area and these people need our help to make a living, so we help them. And of course they help us. I finally caved in and from a recommendation from another woman in the compound, got an Indian woman named Geena to come to my house once a week to clean for me. Can I admit something? It was really, really weird for me, and actually kind of sad. This lovely 60 something woman came in and cleaned my whole house. The house the company gave us is 4800 square feet (actually the main reason I conceded to get a maid... I raised up the white flag in defeat, it's too much for me) and she spent four solid hours cleaning and working so very hard. It kind of broke my heart. She had cleaned another house that morning and had to leave my house because she had to go cook dinner for someone else. I was tired just watching her. Meanwhile, she's fawning over my babies because they make her miss her grandbabies back in India. It stirred up all sorts of emotions in me, most of them I didn't like. I felt guilty, lazy, undeserving. It was such a strange day for me. While it was really nice to have so much of my house clean at the same time, I don't really think I'm looking forward to having her come back. It just made me so sad.
I have almost felt pressure to get a live-in nanny. It's just not something I'm interested in, but people who have them act like there is no other way to go. I just feel like the one thing I've chosen to do in this world is be a mom and I am not going to outsource that. I just can't. I have never even sent my kids to preschool because, well, they're mine! and I only have a finite amount of time with them. Every moment is so precious, I just can't send them off that early. (I have to insert here that these are just my thoughts about my own personal world... I am very much a live and let live type of person... you do what you want and I do what I want and I'm ok with that. I'm not trying to judge or comment on anyone else's choices). Dan has talked to people who say they felt like I did when they got here and then they "changed." Of course, if you know me, you know that makes me want one even less (if that's possible). I was surprised at how much it bothered me to even think about it.
Blah.
Moving on to why I actually started this post....
Soooo anways, the weekend here is Friday/Saturday. Friday is the sabbath. You go to work/school Sunday through Thursday. So Thursday night Dan and I were more than ready to go out on our first date here. The last couple of months have been extremely stressful with getting ready to move and all. So we finally had a moment to decompress. Geena came and babysat our kids for us and Dan and I went to Souq Waqif for the evening. It was such a cool place. Definitely the type of adventure I was imagining when we moved here. It's tons of tiny little twisty streets with little storefronts lining each side. There are souqs that sell spices, some sell traditional clothing, some sell gold, some sell pets, some sell shisha pipes, some sell home improvement items, cooking items, you name it. There are even art galleries and restaurants with cuisine from all over the world (Dan and I spotted several we want to go visit). And of course there are very touristy ones that just sell a bunch of junk. And the people watching is fantastic.
It struck me while we were there how very much in the minority Dan and I were. It was kind of a strange feeling. But I digress...
I wish we would have gotten more pictures of our night out, but the thing that the pictures don't convey is the SMELLS... the line from Sense and Sensibility kept coming into my head, when Margaret is asking Colonel Brandon what India is like and he answers: "The air is full of spices." That was really what it was like. Spices, incense, perfumes, shisha, street vendors cooking pastries while you wait... The smells alone were half of the fun. There was also an outdoor concert going on, so it was a full sensory experience. I felt like we needed to go back 10 more times, just to eat at all the different restaurants, and find all the alleyways. We especially loved the spice shops with mounds and mounds of spices, they were so fragrant. Other favorites were the nuts/sweets shops. One shop owner handed us fresh dates to eat, and insisted that we eat several. I didn't know if Dan would know to spit out the pit so I ate mine quickly and made sure to spit the pit out in front of him. He said he was glad I did that because he wouldn't have known, haha. I have never had a fresh date before, just dried ones, so that was a fun little first. In another shop we were looking at all the mounds of dried peas and nuts and the shopowner told us to sample them. When we both only took one he laughed at us and told us to dig in. It was so funny.

This is a little pastry called a dosa. It's similar to a crepe, but made with cheese and honey. There are groups of women, each sitting with their own little stove set up with a big round stone on top and they make these while you wait. We could have gotten one made with egg instead of honey, but we'll have that next time :)
Just a big old incense burner outside a shop.
My drink was a work of art! It was as delicious as it looked.
There was an outdoor concert and they were rocking pretty hard. The music sounded like nothing we had ever heard before! Notice the men all in white and the women all in black.
This man is smoking his shisha and looking at his iphone... When we walked around the corner, there were 6 or 7 more men sitting in a row against the walls smoking their shisha. We were too chicken to take a picture of them, so we sneaked one of this guy...
The bins of nuts and dried fruits.
Shisha pipes right next to the candy.
Candy and spices and roses. We bought some candy with those little roses crushed on top. It was surprisingly delicious!
These bins had the dried, spiced peas and beans. These were the ones the shopowner told us to eat from. YUM.
These are probably 10 gallon bags. These are outside a lot of the shops.
The outdoor concert we happened upon.
Me in front of the islamic cultural center.
One of our favorite shops of the evening. This was along a little alleyway with all hand made items. The men were sitting on the floor making all these little lamps, and carving them out of gypsum. There was another shop a few doors down where there were probably 8 men just sitting on the floor sewing clothes. I wanted a picture of them but of course, I didn't take one...
The workbench in the nightlight shop.
Some of the nightlights, up close...
Doha skyline on our way home from our date...
We had a lovely evening and can't wait to go back again.
Friday we got to go to church for the first time. It is a really interesting, loving group of people from all over the world. It was so nice to go to the same church all the way across the globe. It was very comforting. I think we will be happy there.
This is our church building. It's a house, but it is only used as a church.
More adventures to come...